Occasionally misplacing the car keys is normal; Forgetting what to do with them is not

elder care resourcesCognitive decline in your parent or spouse may happen quickly or slowly, but the caregiving journey is likely to be long and unpredictable. Nearly one third of family care givers spend more than five years assisting their loved one, experiencing overwhelming financial and personal stress and conflicting emotions of love, resentment, anger and guilt.

What are the signs that a loved one needs help? How much help is needed and where can it be found? How do you convince your aging parent that it’s time to give up the car keys or explain the “dignity of risk” to your 40 year old daughter? What accommodations can be made to make living at home safe and comfortable, and what are the alternative living options? How can I evaluate the quality of a retirement or assisted living community or nursing home and what is the cost? What’s the difference between home healthcare and home care? Are finances and end of life wishes planned for?

Parents, children and siblings need to consider these and other questions before a crisis hits, but it’s never too late to start. An experienced coach can help successfully negotiate the landscape of being a caregiver, including:

  • Caring for the caregiver; avoiding burnout
  • Dealing with social isolation
  • Conflict management between family members
  • Finding the right medical, legal and financial assistance

Having spent over three decades working with seniors and their families, I would welcome the opportunity to discuss these and other practical and personal issues during a complementary 30 minute consultation. You are not alone!